I had a really nice long talk with my ex last night about our breakup. We've been best buds since it happened but we never really talked about the actual breakup until now. It was calm and civil, something we both knew would happen, so it was still sad. But not depressing. After the breakup we've actually been more relaxed and comfortable around each other, talking every day and just being really close friends.
Last night we really talked over our feelings and opinions about our failed relationship and the breakup, maybe out of curiosity, maybe out of a sense of a little more closure. We agreed that, while it was enjoyable and had plenty of nice moments, there was simply too much stress that overshadowed it, mainly my fault. We both had different expectations of what we wanted from a relationship, and I tried to make her into someone that I wanted, rather than accept who she really was. But thankfully we both understood things weren't going well enough to continue, so when the breakup finally happened, we only needed a little time to adjust, and really soon we were practically best friends again.
I'm really really happy things worked out so calmly and maturely, and that we can talk such a tender topic out rather than avoid each other. I'm not super hung up about it even - but I felt that this conversation gave some good, proper closure, and now I feel much more calm, now that I know of her thoughts about it too.
Just something that really lifted my mood.
