Quote from: Cal427eb on Jun 06, 2014, 03:43:32 AM
Wut... There's no need to get upset at someone for being an acceptable human being. I don't hold the door for women because they're weaker than men. I hold the door open because I'd want someone to hold the door for me and it's the polite thing to do. So yes, it is stupid.
Your idea of the issue is filtered through the lens of dumbass 4chan/Reddit posts from reactionary internet dweebs.
When women complain about how dudes randomly holding doors open makes them a bit uncomfortable, it has nothing to do with, say, being right behind someone and them holding the door because letting it shut in your face would be rude.
It's something like, for example: I am not near that door when you go through it. I am like 20-30 seconds away from that door. Hell, I'm probably at the bottom of the stairs. But you see me, and insist on waiting there, holding the door open when you really don't need to. It's actually kind of passive aggressive: I now have to acknowledge you when I'm minding my own business and you should be minding yours, and then I'm forced to thank you for an imposed act of charity that was not required. This happens all the time. And men don't do this kind of thing to each other, generally.
I personally don't call guys out on it when it happens, even though yes it does make me slightly uncomfortable because I dont need you to stand there holding the door open for me like I'm a kid, and I usually just say thank you, ignore it and carry on. But it's not difficult to see why some women would get kind of fed up with it.
