Quote from: Corporal Hicks on Apr 20, 2020, 06:55:19 AM
Quote from: Local Trouble on Apr 17, 2020, 07:56:11 PM
I don't want a funeral, but I know it won't be up to me and that's frustrating.
Can't you just specify that in your will? Or just tell folk? I'm honestly ignorant of these. It's not an actual legal requirement is it?
I believe you can specify it. You can also prepay for funeral services. I would not just leave it up to your people.
When my friend's father died unexpectedly some years ago, he had made no funeral arrangements whatsoever. So in the midst of his grief, my friend had to leave his mother and siblings, go down to the funeral home and make the arrangements himself, and then write a $10,000 check to the funeral home. So two years later when he lost his job, all of his savings were gone and he had nothing to live on.
Just a few years later, my grandmother passed away without having made any Arrangements. After having been awake for almost 24 hours, having not slept since the death, my parents had to drive to the next town and meet with a funeral director to plan everything. It was a horrifying and unnecessary burden.
After it was all over, my family and I came to the agreement that we all wished to be cremated as quickly as possible upon death and that no services would be held for any of us. The financial and emotional price is simply too devastating to force upon your loved ones.