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What do you folks do to calm yourselves down, or to vent off your frustration of something or someone? Honest (and appropriate) answers and explanations are welcomed.

I inhale, imagine a japanese gong sound and exhale slowly.  *que flute*

Video games, lots and lots of video games.  :)

I've found deep breathing helps. Not just a standard breath, I mean the slowest, fullest inhale you can, hold it, then slowly let it out.

Quote from: Gate on Apr 03, 2014, 04:59:01 AMWhat do you folks do to calm yourselves down, or to vent off your frustration of something or someone? Honest (and appropriate) answers and explanations are welcomed.

I gave up losing my marbles when someone pisses me off. I used to do that a lot. Now I normally just take a deep breath in through my nose and exhale out through my mouth while making a cursory evaluation of the situation. Then most of the time; I just leave. I mean what's the point. Assholes and elbows right? I see people who can't control their aggression as lesser beings. Arrogant? Maybe but that's my view. It's pity really. Now I'm not against rage, it's an essential emotional/psychical tool but 99% of time it's totally unwarranted.

So yea, I control my anger by being a smug jackass.

Usually I take a long nap. I don't get angry very easy and I honestly I can't remember the last time when I was angry. The secret is not to give a shit. There's no point to clog your mind with bullshit. If something goes wrong I just go straight for the solution. It is what it is so there's no point to get angry, thats the prime reaction of the weak minded. Your anger won't change anything, its more likely to break something (you know what I mean).

Get to know yourself and understand that everybody has flaws including you.
And thats okay.
Its part of what makes everyone unique, different and interesting.
(And strangely sometimes becomes attractive in a sexual partner.)

The anger isn't worth it because it hurts yourself.
(And why would you give the person, place or thing that satisfaction!)
Then whether or not what and/or who made you angry is forgivable or acceptable can be dealt with separate from the rush of anger.

You dont have to stay angry to choose not to forgive.
And when you make that determination, it can be in you best interest to do it dispassionately in a rational state of mind.

Although there are also situations that might require an action from you that you wouldn't be capable of rationally.
In such a case after I've calmed down enough to make that determination,
I would choose to intentionally let the emotion overwhelm me so that I dont have to think about it.

I come on here and try to piss other people off too.

Nah, I'm generally too chill to get angry at things.

Quote from: BANE on Apr 03, 2014, 12:55:48 PM
I come on here and try to piss other people off too.

That does work.

Sometimes I'll read something in the news that incenses me,
like the lady in sf who went into a bar wearing her pricey google glass prototype,
and then when everyone in the bar got pissed off which
1. seems like a reasonable reaction IMO,
and 2. obviously she wasn't a well liked regular,
and snatched them off her face,
she got herself in the paper claiming that she was the victim of a hate crime.

When I hear things like that I feel compelled to go into comment sections where I can find spoiled lib attention brats and yell at them,
about anything,
with vitriol.

But sometimes I feel bad afterwards though because a lot of them aren't malicious in intent,
just ignorant.

But if the OP is referring to like anger management problems,
which I cant really delve into personally because I dont have that,
but I would imagine like maybe exercise.
Some sort of hobby.

That is easily a borderline psychological problem.
I've seen people who deal with it in life,
their always pissed off for no good reason but their functional and pay their bills.
I've also seen people who it just leaves a ragged torn down mess and practically dysfunctional.

If you were having a problem with it,
seeing a therapist might be something to seriously consider.
Sometimes you need a pro's help.

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I either deal with it with video games, or I just punch something.

Thats not a good combination. I still remember that guy who played MW2, got very angry, punched the wall as hard as he can and he broke his arm.

Drink.

It depends on the situation.

I usually listen to songs I am deeply attached to, which most of the times work and soothe me down. A good nap or a bath work wonders too.

hot tea and some ambient music I find on youtube... and I find something to do that isn't going on the forums or the internet on general.  Or look at cute pictures of puppies and kittens, that usually lightens things up for me.

Video Games, Drink, Women, and every now and then punch something.

I used to run.  If I was really pissed I'd start racking up the miles, like 7 or 8 of them.

I have a slow burning fuse though so nothing really pisses me off that much. 

A lot of people are saying games. What kind of games do you use, specifically?

For me, it's not even particularly violent games that I vent with, like Painkiller. Pretty much anything I can become immersed in will help me calm down, so a game with good flow to it. Warframe is my current escape from reality. The gameplay is fast and dynamic, so it takes up all my attention, but it's not frustrating, plus I always have something I'm working towards. So I get the instant gratification of mowing down enemies and the sense of achievement that comes with earning/making something.

If I'm not playing wrestling games to calm down, it's usually various RPG games.  :)

Writing in a journal helps me a lot. Also, deep breathing, though I don't do this that often.

Fast paced exercise, video games, and if I'm really pissed off I'll drive down to the range and fire off a few rounds

bang bitches like the alpha I am

Quote from: Cal427eb on Apr 04, 2014, 04:33:00 AM
bang bitches like the alpha I am

That will be his face when he first sees the pussy.

Quote from: Kimarhi on Apr 04, 2014, 04:44:05 AM
That will be his face when he first sees the pussy.

When? Implying it'll happen

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I was going to post something gross but it is too easily aspie trolled

gimme

Better not. -_-

As for the topic, I'm slow to anger, but deep breaths will keep the monster inside caged.  ;)

When I see someone with the handle and avatar of the Master Chief discussing anger management, I just picture him in a Japanese sand garden fully clad and disassembling/cleaning his rifle.

While taking deep breaths.

Personally, I find a good book, a glass of Pinot, and or a match of Battlefield 4 will lower my stress levels. Fortunately, I seldom get worked up enough to warrant needing calming down. There are few problems that cannot be overridden by honest introspection and an honest evaluation of ourselves.

I cry, hit something. Multiple ways about going about releaving anger.

But I have to say I'm glad I'm not thick skinned, I've never seen it as beneficial.

Quote from: Erik Lehnsherr on Apr 05, 2014, 11:48:13 PM
I cry, hit something. Multiple ways about going about releaving anger.

But I have to say I'm glad I'm not thick skinned, I've never seen it as beneficial.

Absolutely right. Thick skin is usually a byproduct of passive aggressive behavior, which is not only a sign of weakness, but cowardice.

Quote from: Mr. Sin on Apr 05, 2014, 11:52:05 PM

Quote from: Erik Lehnsherr on Apr 05, 2014, 11:48:13 PM
I cry, hit something. Multiple ways about going about releaving anger.

But I have to say I'm glad I'm not thick skinned, I've never seen it as beneficial.

Absolutely right. Thick skin is usually a byproduct of passive aggressive behavior, which is not only a sign of weakness, but cowardice.

Really? Indeed that seems plausable.

Thick skin doesn't mean bottling up anger, it's generally being able to take the punishment as it comes and internalize it later. It's an absolutely essential skill for anyone who wishes to debate or produce content, especially on the internet, where everything they say and do will likely be met with harsh criticism.

Quote from: Sabby on Apr 06, 2014, 12:23:50 AM
Thick skin doesn't mean bottling up anger, it's generally being able to take the punishment as it comes and internalize it later. It's an absolutely essential skill for anyone who wishes to debate or produce content, especially on the internet, where everything they say and do will likely be met with harsh criticism.

You make valid points. Kudos! :)

Quote from: Sabby on Apr 06, 2014, 12:23:50 AM
Thick skin doesn't mean bottling up anger, it's generally being able to take the punishment as it comes and internalize it later. It's an absolutely essential skill for anyone who wishes to debate or produce content, especially on the internet, where everything they say and do will likely be met with harsh criticism.

I wasn't implying it was bottling up anger.
And being able to take criticism and having thick skin are two different things, I can take criticism but I'm sensitive and I wouldn't call that having thick skin, when someone uses the term it implies they are coated in skin which is insensitive and I don't see that as a positive.

You can have a thick skin and be sensitive at the same time. It's all about composure in the moment and dealing with things long term. Having a thin skin generally means you crack under sustained criticism. Having a thick skin means you can handle that. That's it. Your sensitivity is another factor entirely. You can be the most sensitive person ever and still have skin like granite.

Bullshit, in my experience anyway.

how is having thick skin a bad thing? I wish my skin were thicker, I'd like to not crack under pressure so easily, then I could speak my mind.  The only thing I have a thick skin for is my art, because I understand that in order to get better, I have to take criticism and critiques, and not take them as shot to who I am personally.
You have a balance of being emotional and rational, and have a good sense to know when you should be sensitive or a thick skin, and that comes with experience.

I sometimes make people really mad when I laugh at them when they are yelling at me. 



You can develop a thick skin.  I used to care what everybody think, then I had to work in customer service and realized how batshit insane most Americans are and developed a give no f**ks attitude.  Works well in the Army because I just tune all the other stuff out and listen to what people tell me.

Nowadays, I take deep breaths and rationally think about why the situation made me upset and how to correct it.

I hit lots of people in the throat.

I used to hit lots of artsy glass with lighters... before I grew up :o

I hit artsy people in the throat with glass lighters.

I never hit people for their lighters or artsy glass.

I glass people in the lighters with artsy throats.

Alright, you win with dat one!

I feel anger right now.  I should spam the whole forum with UK videos.

At least they have very many more NCAAB titles than the Pitt (eat sh!t) Panthers! My Mountaineers were screwed over in 2011 Final Four bc Duke doesn't foul according to the refs. I will never get over that game. Now I need to take some deep breaths and calm down... :P

Dem freethrows.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PCpA97CFiCQ#ws (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PCpA97CFiCQ#ws)

Ol Chuck Hayes and Big Ben Wallace, two of my favs.

Chuck actually shoots 70 percent but that hitch in his shooting motion will occasionally throw one out of whack.

lol I watched Chuck Heyes a lot when he played down here for the Houston Rockets.



man he sucked hard. He averaged like half a point a game.

He's never averaged that low.  But I don't really know what people expect from him.  He's a 6'6" PF that somehow got hoodwinked into playing center.

He also sucks so bad.........he has a triple double.

He's just like another Tubby Smith player that's played out of position his whole career in Keith Bogans.  Bogans was a SG that's spent almost all his career in the NBA at SF.

Anger leads few places.

Quote from: Mr. Sin on Apr 08, 2014, 06:10:15 AM
Anger leads few places.

Well, it got me all the way to college.

Today I just went to sleep, and now I'm just currently venting out my frustrations. Should just go to f**king sleep and forget this day ever happened.

Quote from: ShadowPred on Apr 08, 2014, 07:31:28 AM
Today I just went to sleep, and now I'm just currently venting out my frustrations. Should just go to f**king sleep and forget this day ever happened.

Sorry to hear that, I hope things get better for you.

Quote from: ShadowPred on Apr 08, 2014, 07:31:28 AM
Today I just went to sleep, and now I'm just currently venting out my frustrations. Should just go to f**king sleep and forget this day ever happened.

I don't know you, but I sincerely hope your future gets brighter, my friend. All things mend in time, even that which we perceive to be irreparable.

Getting drunk helps, too.

Yep. Jack and Coke also helps me relax.

lol I take naps

And troll Galaxy.

Quote from: Aspie on Apr 09, 2014, 12:19:32 AM
lol I take naps

Do you mean, cry yourself to sleep?

Cry myself to sleep in Cortana's holographic arms.

I'm drinking Jack and Coke right now.

Jack and Coke < Cortana's holographic embrace

Your not mixing enough Jack in your coke then Aspie.

Haha

Quote from: Aspie on Apr 09, 2014, 12:42:14 AM
Jack and Coke < Cortana's holographic embrace

Go cry yourself to sleep, with your imposter holographic girlfriend, Dr. Krieger!

Quote from: Master Chief on Apr 09, 2014, 12:52:49 AM
Haha

Quote from: Aspie on Apr 09, 2014, 12:42:14 AM
Jack and Coke < Cortana's holographic embrace

Go cry yourself to sleep, with your imposter holographic girlfriend, Dr. Krieger!

Don't you ever...ever...insult Dr. Krieger again.
>:(

Dang, you're right. Dr. Krieger is a badass, whereas Aspie is just bad (literally).  #forgiveme

Quote from: Master Chief on Apr 09, 2014, 02:21:10 AM
Dang, you're right. Dr. Krieger is a badass, whereas Aspie is just bad (literally).  #forgiveme

#MCisforgiven

Quote from: Kimarhi on Apr 08, 2014, 04:28:43 AM
I feel anger right now.  I should spam the whole forum with UK videos.

Good boy.  :)

I think my UK and your UK are different Razz.

FUX U AL
M RIT AD YR WROG

/jk

Quote from: maledoro on Apr 09, 2014, 02:11:17 AM

Quote from: Master Chief on Apr 09, 2014, 12:52:49 AM
Haha

Quote from: Aspie on Apr 09, 2014, 12:42:14 AM
Jack and Coke < Cortana's holographic embrace

Go cry yourself to sleep, with your imposter holographic girlfriend, Dr. Krieger!

Don't you ever...ever...insult Dr. Krieger again.
>:(

Quote from: Master Chief on Apr 09, 2014, 02:21:10 AM
Dang, you're right. Dr. Krieger is a badass, whereas Aspie is just bad (literally).  #forgiveme

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Quote from: Aspie on Apr 12, 2014, 11:01:06 PM

Quote from: maledoro on Apr 09, 2014, 02:11:17 AM

Quote from: Master Chief on Apr 09, 2014, 12:52:49 AM
Haha

Quote from: Aspie on Apr 09, 2014, 12:42:14 AM
Jack and Coke < Cortana's holographic embrace

Go cry yourself to sleep, with your imposter holographic girlfriend, Dr. Krieger!

Don't you ever...ever...insult Dr. Krieger again.
>:(

Quote from: Master Chief on Apr 09, 2014, 02:21:10 AM
Dang, you're right. Dr. Krieger is a badass, whereas Aspie is just bad (literally).  #forgiveme

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Generally, anger seldom overtakes myself and it often leads to miscommunication. Anger often becomes labeled as an unfavorable emotional manifestation, despite many useful attributes. This is not to say that one should embrace the notion of becoming angry, but rather rejoice over the ability to feel such an intense emotion, for it is always followed by an antithesis which can take the shape of joy or simple satiation.

For myself, as I speak for nobody, the question of how to cope with anger suggests that it is an affliction rather than a byproduct of cognition and individual reasoning. One supposes to cope with anger can and is no different from unconsciously taking a breath of air; it simply happens via biological subroutines and if given enough time can be understood for the natural an generally innocuous phenomenon it is for most humans. :)

Do a bit of focused deep breathing and relaxation excercises, then find whatever activity seems at the time to best distract my mind and feelinhgs. Take a good run, vent briefly to a trusted friend, then get back to having a life.

I shop recklessly, then find a Starbucks with an ocean view.  Maybe reckless is not the right word, I have made use of the new greenhouse.  I shop unnecessarily, that' better.