My brother is gay and has many friends in this crowd, I've encountered many people who are transgender. And I don't get any hostility towards the concept. Here's my opinion on it all;
Clothes and looks are nothing more than clothes and looks. Women dress the way they do because society tells them that's the way women dress. Men dress the way they do for the same reason. It's all rather pointless. So crossdressing (which I understand is not the same thing as being transgender) is just absolutely fine. There isn't anything wrong with wanting to dress the same way women dress. There isn't anything wrong with taking hormones and getting surgery to make yourself look different. It it makes you happy then that's what's important. People say it's disgusting and whatever, and I don't get it. What is wrong with wanting to look like the opposite gender?
But here is where things get iffy for me; what constitutes by law and science what a female and a male is? Is it all just society or is it our genetic makeup? Because people believe sex and gender are separate, that sex is what someone is born with and gender is what you view yourself as. My question is, is if it's all just something that society made up, why do people feel the need to dress like the other gender and preferred to be called that way? Again I think it's fine, I just don't understand the point. And I know that I'm not transgender and I'll never understand what it feels like, but the explanations people give me never make sense. They say 'I was born a woman in a man's body', but the same groups of people are telling me that gender is just a concept. So I don't get it.
In a preferred world, I really wish people would just keep it simple; there are females an males, and some times females and males like to appear the dress, act, etc as the other gender. That's just simple for simplicity's sake. If gender is just something we made up then why make it more complicated? Because you prefer it? I dunno, I don't understand why we make things so complicated. We start coming up with all these terms for non-binaries and I just don't see the point. In some cases, it becomes special snowflake syndrome. Most of the time it's just people trying to find a place to that they can feel comfortable. I really think that we should all just be comfortable with the idea that gender doesn't mean anything, if we stop caring about gender and the social meanings behind both genders then men could become women and women could become men and no one would give a damn.
Out of respect, I do call transgender people by the preferred gender they want, except when they demand something crazy like 'ze' or whatever (there are people out there). But like I said, I don't see why you can't just be okay with being called whatever 'he' or 'she' if you believe that gender is just a social construct. Destroy the construct and you're just left with the sex your born with, which should be insignificant in how you wish to dress our behave.
